Motherhood; The book The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran explained so well this complex relationship by saying “Your children are not your children, they come through you but not from you. You may house their bodies but not their souls, as their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow which you may not enter- not even in your dreams.”
THE RELATIONSHIP THAT WE HAVE WITH OUR MOTHERS is probably one of the most beautiful and powerful and also the most complex. Our mothers bring us into the world, feed, ... Read more
Motherhood; The book The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran explained so well this complex relationship by saying “Your children are not your children, they come through you but not from you. You may house their bodies but not their souls, as their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow which you may not enter- not even in your dreams.”
THE RELATIONSHIP THAT WE HAVE WITH OUR MOTHERS is probably one of the most beautiful and powerful and also the most complex. Our mothers bring us into the world, feed, succour, love and nurture us. Mother love is so powerful and protective that mothers will go every length to protect their child. For this reason mothers find it hard to let go and they often end up trying to control their children, even long after they have grown up.
Our perception of our relationships also plays a key role in how we grow up. We can perceive that our mothers have been cruel to us; however this perceived cruelty is complex and can be split into many levels.
as mothers we can be cruel to be kind and not understand the negative cruel impact we may have on our children.
Negligent cruelty Negligence can occur as a result of our mothers not caring enough or being absent or just not knowing how to be a mother.
Absent cruelty: Spiritual absence through death or loss. A mother who is very unhappy or sick and is not capable of offering us succour and support. A mother who has to go out to work. A mother who is absent but not through choice.
Cruelty through neglect, rejection and favouritism: A mother may be negligent because you are not her favourite child.
Cruelty through anger and abuse: A cruel mother can be very judgemental and destroy our confidence. Hitting, hurting and physical wounding is destructive but sarcasm and verbal cruelty can impact on one’s life and confidence for ever more.
“You are always so clumsy,” “you look so fat in that dress.” “Why don’t you behave like … “.”I can say these cruel things because I am your mother and I am being cruel to be kind!! “
The opposite is a mother who controls and suffocates and instead of being a good mother she tends to Smother.
MOTHERS OFTEN CONTROL AND REWARD WITH FOOD AND THE BLUE ENERGY WHICH SUPPORTS THE THRYOID MAY WELL IMPACT ON THE WAY WE EAT FOR THE REST OF OUR LIVES.
Conditions such as anorexia - punishing mother by refusing to eat her food. Bulimia- self-rewarding by stuffing with food. These complex conditions can often be tracked back to difficult relationships related to absence of mother love or oppressive control by mother. Comments such as “If you are a good little child I will give you an ice cream or sweet.” Condition us to self reward when we are unhappy.
